Being a parent can at times be frustrating and stressful, as well as rewarding and joyful.
When we plant flowers and they do not grow and bloom as we would like, we don't blame them.
Yet, when we have problems with our children, we too often blame them - criticising and nagging.
We need to influence them and they will mature, but it does not mean we can change their nature. The challenge is to nourish them to become responsible an contributing members to the society.
How to be neither overly strict or overly permissive?
Let's start with communicating between parent and child with positive messages.
Remind yourself that you too, would like to receive positive comments rather than criticisms. People feel and do better when thy feel better. Don't allow your impulses direct you what to do.
Sentences starting with "Don't" should be avoided e.g. "Don't forget your homework." "Don't forget to eat your lunch" etc. Instead use messages like "Any homework from school today?" or even get a "To Do List" so that your child learn the habit of responsibility by completing his/her chores & homework before watching TV, playing PC games. This will help to avoid "nagging" situations.
Remember, STAY POSITIVE! (After all, we are the adults, aren't we?)
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